Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. It's been a busy couple of weeks since the last time I wrote. Husband got himself a shiny new job, for one thing. He wasn't really looking for one, but when the right opportunity presents itself, you'd be silly not to pursue. His new job is in our same city and is even physically located near his old office building, so our day-to-day routine won't change too much. However, this job will provide him with some diverse experience for his resume that we hope will help him a lot in the future, and it will help us with our long term plans and goals, too. Pretty great news for Christmas time, right?
As for me, I've been doing a lot of thinking about what I want to do with my post PhD career. Honestly, I'm not sure. Thing is, I don't really care for doing research and writing papers, and that's pretty much what you have to do to be a tenure-track professor. I like the teaching aspect but don't like the research aspect. Should I become a lecturer instead? Or an adjunct? A consultant? A combination of both? A flexible career would be my ideal, but isn't that everyone's ideal? Time will tell where I go with this... We'll see. Many people would tell you that getting a PhD if you don't intend to become a professor is a waste. I don't see it that way. I do and always have seen it as a personal accomplishment. I came, I learned, I conquered. Now I can make my own path and have many more options -- including becoming a research-oriented professor. I mean, I could just be temporarily burnt out from SO MUCH focus on research with my dissertation. But looking back, I can't really ever remember having a passion for it...
And lastly, here's the news people always wait for when a blog goes silent for months. Usually it's because the blogger is pregnant. In this case, I have to say that my blog has been silent (semi-silent) for other reasons, namely those mentioned in my last post back in December. I'm enjoying being *just a reader*.
So that's a separate issue from the news that I actually am pregnant. This will not be a pregnancy blog or a mommy blog. Believe it or not, I have no desire to write about my experience for an audience. Maybe because I don't want to scare anyone (it's not been fun). But to appease you, baby is the size of a papaya, you know the drill. Imagine a picture of me covered with acne, wearing ill-fitting clothes, and looking decidedly bloated and miserable, and holding said fruit.
Since I know people will ask, here are the answers.
Due? June
Gender? Girl
Planned? Yes (and rude of you to ask).
Glowing? No.
[Insert undesireable pregnancy symptom here]: Yes.
[Insert awesome pregnancy symptom here]: No.
Bump picture? No. Maybe sometime... see Instagram.
Cravings? Potato Oles from Taco Johns. Cherry Icees.
And yes, I am excited and happy about it. It's just thus far been hard to reflect it outwardly when I've spent the last 5 months feeling like you have a hangover*, and a migraine, and the skin of a 14 year old, and an out of control weight problem.
But still: baby girl! We are anxiously awaiting her arrival.
How was everyone's Holiday?
*I know it's one's nature to want to help, but please don't sugged that x, y, or z helped your 'morning sickness'. I am/have been at the "up the dosage on those prescriptions and try combining them" level. Not the "gingerale & apples" level.
Congrats! Long time reader from your days at Weddingbee. I'm thrilled for you!
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ReplyDeleteCongrats! Sorry you are feeling so yucky. I hope it does pass soon, and I hope you do feel interested in sharing your thoughts on pregnancy, motherhood, job stuff and all else going on at some point. I'm still interested in what you have to say. Congrats on your husband's new job as well!
ReplyDeleteCongrats!!! I started to wonder when I saw some of your pins on Pinterest (I promise I'm not a stalker!). Congrats to your husband too for finding (what sounds like) an awesome new job. Hope 2013 continues to be great for you.
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ReplyDeleteAwesome! Congrats! (And thankyouthankyouthankyou for keeping it real about pregnancy not being all rays of sunshine and butterflies!)
ReplyDeleteOn the PhD tip, I feel you. As I continue to churn out my diss., watch my freshly-Phded friends try to eke out a living in this abysmal job market, and increasingly hear I need a book contract before I even consider applying for a tenure track job, it is impossible not be like "Hmm... Maybe I should go find something in a STEM field? Or maybe Target's hiring?" Best of luck deciding your next step and please know you're definitely not alone.
CONGRATULATIONS!!! It's actually very refreshing to hear the "to the point truth" about pregnancy. I'm happy for the two of you, I'm sure that baby girl will have the most beautiful pictures taken by their parents LOL
ReplyDeleteWhat exciting news! Congratulations!!!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! I'm happy for you and your husband. Your lives will change forever... for the better.
ReplyDeleteCongrats! So exciting!
ReplyDeleteBlah, pregnancy is the worst! I did not get morning sickness, but my face was a pizza, I had terrible heartburn, and I spent over 1k on a maternity wardrobe because I couldn't stand feeling so frumpy. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about the comments people make about how much they 'loved' being pregnant, so just smile and nod. Every time I told people I was miserable they did not appreciate my honesty and instead looked at me like I was a moron or tried to offer advice to make it better. OMG, it was enough to drive me crazy on the regular. Anyway, congrats! On the plus side, your labor will most likely overshadow any bad thoughts about your pregnancy. HA
ReplyDeletePinterest clued me off too! Congrats congrats. So very exciting for you both. Can't wait to see what you do with your nursery and all those cute pins. :)
ReplyDeleteCongrats! I don't think this qualifies as ass-vice (famous last words, right?) but I just have to recommend www.babynamewizard.com (to ANYONE who loves words and demographics, not just parents-to-be). It's amazing and provides data about name trends over time and geographically. Truly one of my favorite websites ever!
ReplyDeleteCongrats! So exciting for you and your husband! I am happy to see a blog post from you again and hear your news!
ReplyDeleteWe've been thinking about trying to have a baby ourselves, but I am just not quite sure yet if we are ready. We are both still getting into the hang of things with our new jobs post-PhD. Plus, with my job I'm abroad 4 months each year for the next two years. I'm not sure about having a baby abroad when my husband is back in the US...
Be a lecturer. Teaching is awesome. I'm doing a fellowship now which is half teaching/half research and more and more I just want to do all teaching. The lecturers I work with all seem to have good work/life balance and have small children. They seem happy. It seems like an ideal job.
-TZ